Welcome to this page about my work as a Women’s Sexual Health and Healing massage therapist.
It is deep and nourishing work to heal & celebrate femininity and womanhood.
To address core issues within your sexual/intimate history through touch.
Yoni is a Sanskrit word for the female genitals. It includes the vulva, vagina, cervix and womb.
Many women know very little about their genitalia, have often never seen themselves and/or have mixed feelings, including a lot of shame about their genitalia. This may be due to the learning and experiences of their entires lives: lacking role models of healthy womanhood and women's sexual nature; skewed images in the media; being scolded or shamed for self pleasuring as children; negative early sexual experiences; allowing sex when not fully engaged or ready; fast or hard sex; abuse; negative birth experiences and trauma; etc.
Many of us have received or allowed touch that we didn’t actually want, many of us know how to disassociate when we don’t enjoy touch or connection. Many women stop connecting sexually and sensually after having children or around menopause.
This work enables women to heal the disconnections and learn what pleasure their bodies can give them & what type of touch feels good.
Our yoni is a most delicate flower and benefits profoundly from increased connection. Connection with ourselves! This healing goes far beyond sexuality and can impact our connection to ourselves and the people around us.
An important element to this is communication and this has a central place in the work.
During this work there is a lot of emphasis on connecting to the feelings in your body, which means that there will be more verbal exchange between us.
The appointment generally lasts about 3 hours. We will begin with a conversation about your wishes, your current connection to your body and sexuality. We will create a ritualised space to celebrate your body and being.
It is an honouring that many of us have never received in our journey to becoming women and sexual beings. The healing of this work is immense.
It can be a foundation for being more connected to Self and allowing/striving for intimacy with a partner again.
There are many different elements that can be used independently or combined as required/desired. Apart from the Explorations all the women’s massages include a full body Lomi massage.
A guided self exploration with mirror to support you to explore/understand your external genitalia.
A guided exploration using a speculum and mirror to explore your external and internal genitalia.
A fabulous way to really understand your body, know how you look and where everything is, why everything functions the way it does. Take the opportunity to connect to the individual beauty and perfection of your Yoni.
A massage of the entire body, including breasts and vulva( external genitals). Simple touch & holding of the breasts and vulva is so incredibly healing. It is not stimulation but integration. Healing the artificial separation and disconnection from our sexual nature.
This massage of the external genitalia is a tool for self exploration/ understanding. This massage includes the Venus mount, Venus lips ( inner and outer) and clitoris ( not just the pearl but more importantly all the erectile tissue under the labia, which most women are completely unaware of), sitting bones and perineum.
This work includes external touch on your Yoni- a massage of the lips ( outer and inner lips), sitting bones, around the clitoris and the perineum; and it can also include internal touch - vagina, internal massage of sitting bones, G-spot - female prostate, cervix and A point.
This massage may release tension and trauma, reawaken areas of numbness, reconnect you to yourself, create greater knowledge of your own body and the way it functions/connects to pleasure. There may be feelings of pleasure or arousal but it is not the primary aim of this massage.
Techniques of holding, pulsing, massage, indirect vibration, visualisations are utilised.
Here we place the focus of the work on reconnecting to pleasure: understanding your modus of arousal and how to develop this further; awakening waves of arousal; finding your personal pleasure spots. Importantly the focus is not on getting somewhere but staying connected to feeling, staying present.
Within that everything is welcome.
As a former independent midwife this work is very important to me!
Women need to learn about their vulva and vagina. They need to release trauma from abuse, soften scar tissue after cervical biopsies or operations in the genital area, release the physical and emotional scars of abortions ideally before embarking on a pregnancy. But much can still be done during pregnancy to ease the birthing journey and strengthen a woman's own resources for the birth.
Much work is needed in the area of healing after childbirth: birth trauma, episiotomies, feelings of the female body having failed, pain during intercourse, low libido etc
Genital Mapping (1 hour) £60
Women’s Massages £60 for 1st hour & £50 thereafter. A time frame will be agreed beforehand.
All you have read may excite you, scare you, make you feel uncomfortable, make you wonder.
I would love to have an exchange about it, no matter what feelings arise for you.
Also, dear men, I would love to hear your thoughts as well. My focus with this work is with the women, but I am well aware that you have also been socialized in ways that have not always been very helpful. Many of you have not had an opportunity to talk openly about your insecurities, desires, frustrations. I would love to hear from you.
'I have recently begun women’s work in the Lomi Lomi massage with Anja and have been amazed at the deep healing that is occurring through this process. Anja creates a beautiful safe and sacred space. Her gentle, warm and nurturing presence as well as her skills working with the body encourage my body to open and release held tensions and past trauma. In particular her touch and her instinctive sense to move my body into certain positions has allowed me to access and release a past sexual trauma which psychotherapy could not. The loving and respectful touch she uses within the yoni massage has brought about healing and a deeper respect for my own femininity and womanhood. Of course it is unconventional and beyond the 'normal' boundaries in our society to be straight and have another woman touch intimate parts of our bodies, but Anja handles this with extreme skill keeping the focus very present, and involves me as an active participant of the process by asking regularly for feedback about what is arising. This sensitive approach builds trust and means that healing can occur. I would highly recommend her. ‘ V.J February 2018
'I feel privileged to be deepening my journey through Anja's work. I have enjoyed her Lomi Lomi massage for many years and am now seeing her for women's healing work too. she offers a safe, loving and transformative space in which to nourish the feminine. She is an inspirational therapist and truly walks her belief and practice. I cannot recommend her highly enough.' L.B, October 2018
'Both Anja and the awesome, transformative work that she does have had a big impact in my life. She lovingly massaged and supported me and my baby throughout pregnancy and post-partum, taking me into deeply connected spaces that nurtured me beyond words. And now with her woman's work I can enter into what feels to me a very safe and sacred space and shift deep-seated blocks that have kept me from my full expression as a woman. So I have a lot to thank Anja for and would highly recommend her work to anyone wishing to claim more of their sovereignty and release what no longer serves them.' R.K, October 2018
Feedback from a client about Yoni mapping:
'Meeting my yoni - There are 8000 nerve endings in the tip of the clitoris alone. It is the only known body part that has the sole purpose of pleasure. Inside my vagina there is an ‘a’ spot as well as a ‘g’ spot. Working with Anja has allowed me to get to know my own body— this one I carry around with me every day — I had no idea me and my yoni were such strangers. I also can’t believe that I waited 42 years to get to know this wonderful part of my body. After my first three hour Woman’s massage with Anja I vowed to her that I would send my daughter to her to get the chance to map out her own body and all the amazing things it can do before she starts to explore it with someone else. I wish that every woman and girl had a chance to do this, I also know it’s never too late.
Getting to know my body better, to understand that my sensuality is something internal not externally validated has made me feel more confident every day, not just in my sex life. I have shaken off any feelings of shame, I take care of myself in a way I hadn’t done before, I appreciate my body more and therefore I look after it.
Every woman should have the chance to meet their yoni.'
Anna, 42, Kent - June 2019