Couple Coaching for Enlivened Intimacy


“People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them bare and their response is 'you're safe with me'- that's intimacy.” - Taylor Jenkins Reid


Bodywork gives you the space to drop out of your Doing mode into Stillness, Non-Doing, Receiving, Letting go, Recharging, Rebalancing, Being.

Giving touch to a partner is an opportunity to practice listening, responding, attentiveness, dedication and is ultimately a gift of love. It is given freely, not attached to a particular outcome or expectation of reciprocity.

 

As couples we have developed individual dynamics of physical & emotional intimacy. Often these dynamics are based on roles that we have taken on, roles that may not actually serve our relationship very well. These bodywork sessions are an opportunity to show yourself, to dare ask for what you want or work out what you want, to try something new and to step into a new phase of your relationship.

The coaching session offers you a space, a time for you, as a couple, to explore touch, communication, patterns of behaviour.

 

I will be coaching you to create a space to share your true desires, an inner readiness for touch, for setting boundaries, for appreciation. I will be teaching you skills to give a sensual massage & impulses/ideas to make it an extraordinary experience.

 Artwork by: Nigel Gillings

Some of the questions & issues we will explore are:

  • who generally initiates contact & what effect does that have on each of you
  • who is more active/passive
  • has a particular progression developed
  • are individual needs being expressed and acknowledged
  • are you able to express them without attached emotion  
  • are you able to receive fully letting go of the pressure to reciprocate
  • are you able to stay present and attentive when giving
  • can you distinguish between sensual and sexual touch

On the one hand, the session is a time to explore receiving, to practice asking for what you need and want, to allow yourself to drop into relaxation & pleasure. 

On the other hand, it is a time to explore how to meet your partners wishes, how to let go of judgements about it and how to suspend your own desires in the process of serving your loved one.

It is a space to bring heart connection to the very core of your intimacy!

 

My offer to you:

I will support you to learn new skills, to add to your touch vocabulary, to look at the dynamics at work between the two of you, to support a new intimacy. I will offer you rituals that you can use as a couple. They are framed opportunities to gift the other with attention, mindfulness and care. I will offer you exercises and reflection, inspirations and impulses to extend yourself - in order to come closer!

 

We will start each session with a conversation about your patterns, challenges, wishes and intentions progressing to exercises, touch structures and massages. You will both have an opportunity to give and to receive. 

The coaching session is a beautiful, powerful space for transformation and development.

 

The session can be used as a Stand-alone or I can support you over several sessions to make more significant changes and developmental steps.

 

I look forward to accompany you.

 

£60/hour. Sessions will be 3-4 hours, depending on chosen work.