Couple Coaching for Enlivened Intimacy

“People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them bare and their response is 'you're safe with me'- that's intimacy.” - Taylor Jenkins Reid

 Artwork by: Nigel Gillings
 Artwork by: Nigel Gillings

Bodywork gives you the space to drop out of your Doing mode into Stillness, Non-Doing, Receiving, Letting go, Recharging, Rebalancing, Being.

Giving touch to a partner is an opportunity to practice listening, responding, attentiveness, dedication and is ultimately a gift of love. It is given freely, not attached to a particular outcome or expectation of reciprocity.


As couples we have developed individual dynamics of physical & emotional intimacy. Often these dynamics are based on roles that we have taken on, roles that may not actually serve our relationship very well. The Coaching sessions are an opportunity to slow down, show yourself, to dare ask for what you want or work out what you want, to try something new and to step into a new phase of your relationship.

The session offers you a space, a time for you, as a couple, to explore touch, communication & patterns of behaviour.


I will be coaching you to create a space to share your true desires, an inner readiness for touch, for setting boundaries, for appreciation. 

Some of the questions & issues we can explore are:

  • who generally initiates contact & what effect does that have on each of you
  • who is more active/passive
  • has a particular progression developed
  • are individual needs being expressed and acknowledged
  • are you able to express them without attached emotion  
  • are you able to receive fully letting go of the pressure to reciprocate
  • are you able to stay present and attentive when giving
  • can you distinguish between sensual and sexual touch

On the one hand, the session is a time to explore receiving, to practice asking for what you need and want, to allow yourself to drop into relaxation & pleasure. 

On the other hand, it is a time to explore how to meet your partners wishes, how to let go of judgements about it and how to suspend your own desires in the process of serving your loved one.

It is a space to bring heart connection to the very core of your intimacy!


My offer to you:

I will create a framed opportunity for you to gift each other with attention, mindfulness and care. I will offer you exercises and reflection, inspirations and impulses to look at the dynamics at work between the two of you, to support a new intimacy, to extend yourself - in order to come closer! 

I may support you to learn new skills, to add to your touch vocabulary and offer you rituals that you can use as a couple at home.


We will start each session with a conversation about your patterns, challenges, wishes and intentions progressing to exercises & touch structures. You will both have an opportunity to give and to receive. 

The coaching session is a beautiful, powerful space for transformation and development.


The session can be used as a Stand-alone or I can support you over several sessions to make more significant changes and developmental steps.


A pre-work questionnaire will give me the information needed to create a bespoke session for you.



First session: 4 hours - £350

Subsequent sessions: 3 or 4 hours - £250 or £310


'Anja surpassed our expectations in helping us deepen our connection as a couple.  She’s a wise, intuitive and insightful guide with a great capacity to observe what was unfolding between us and then reflect back to us in easily understood language, with gentle exercises to explore the emerging issues.  We particularly appreciated the experiential and embodied nature of Anja’s work encouraging us to move from our heads into our hearts,  allowing us to let go of much of the ‘noise’ and stories which had been interrupting intimacy.   She supported us in being able to reveal greater levels of vulnerability opening us to deeper truths within ourselves.  Her work is both accessible and profound and we would warmly recommend Anja to any partnership considering couples coaching.'

P. and S., Kent